It feels weird starting this post. Even more to be thinking about things this way. But it’s true.
I’m not Wonder-Woman. And that’s OK.
Today I was looking over my agenda and my notebook (post about these coming soon), all the things I had to do, the things I wanted to do, prioritizing and all while staying sane. I’m going to be very honest that even though I love writing and keeping this blog, sometimes I just don’t have the energy to write.
Worse thing is that I know there are plenty women out there, that do it and do it well. Emily Ley, Jillian Harris, Emily Ann Gemma, Alexandrea Garza, Courtney Shields Albright… These are just some of the few that inspire me and are constantly on my browser when I need inspiration, advice or maybe just something good to read or watch. These women inspire and encourage me every day, in an indirect and genuine way, to become a better version of myself.
And so in this post I wanted to share with you a couple of things that have been going on in my life, how I’m trying to overcome them and what has helped me so far.
My daily dose of inspiration
Almost every day, during lunch or when I’m on the train heading home from work or right before going to bed, I go onto one of these ladies’ websites/ blogs/ YouTube channels and take a look at what they’re writing about, what they’re doing or things they’re reviewing. A lot of times I love just browsing their websites just to find small or big things that have helped them get through tough or new situations. And I LOVE IT. I love watching how they get through these new life events and figure it out just like I’m doing now with my life.
To give you a little background on what has been going on in my life, let me tell you how my last year has been:
I graduated at the end of last August from university. One of the best feelings I have ever had and yet, one of the worst transitions onto what now? Since then I have had an internship, two jobs and a confrontation with a company that was less than legitimate. It has been a true roller-coaster. Now I have two jobs, one full-time during the week and another one part-time on nights and weekends, to keep me going until I figure out how long I will be at this full-time job. Yes, it’s madness. And no, I don’t know how I do it. Sometimes I cannot tell apart if it is the weekend or the week, if I’m supposed to be up or sleeping or if it is one of those rare days I have “off”. What I tell myself to keep going and stay positive is that we all go through tough and unknown moments in our lives. Just because they’re difficult, it doesn’t mean they’re impossible. And I am lucky enough to have the love and support of my boyfriend on every decision I make.
With all of that being said, and as I’ve mentioned, I have been looking at ways to improve my life schedule, routine and balance of those. That’s how I found my new and currently favourite blogger, business owner and mom-goal: Emily Ley (also current fave: Simplicity and Grace! Thanks Emily!!). She really has influenced and shaped the way I think about life, simplifying everything and being happy. So I am very happy because I have just ordered my first Simple Planner and cannot wait to get started. She also sends the sweetest weekly emails with advice, tips and tricks on how to simplify your life, home, work schedule, etc. I love reading her emails on the train on my way to work. It truly is relieving when you see that someone else went through these struggles and had to figure it out. But now, they’re there to help you resolve those.
Trying to keep things Simple and give yourself Grace
Whether you’re religious or not, Grace Not Perfection is a book I will from now on recommend to every woman I know to read! It is incredibly eye-opening and gives you a sense of relief and love for things like I haven’t felt in a long time.
Just as I said at the beginning of this blog, I thought I had to do it all, and do it perfectly. Post on the blog several days a week, excel at my work and be a good girlfriend to Zach. As much as I continue to attempt to do as best I can in all of that, I truly am not perfect. And sometimes, it’s OK to give in and pat yourself on the back for what you have accomplished. The other night Zach and I had pizza for dinner on the couch at 22 o’clock (10 p.m.). It was so much fun and so relaxing. Sometimes I forget how understanding, loving and non-judgmental he is, how he is fine with eating pizza late at night and doesn’t need a fancy dish to be ready before 19 o’clock (7 p.m.).
That day I had also been at both my jobs and had worked solo the last couple hours at my second one. Everything that needed to be done was accomplished and I smiled at how proud I was for that and how I deserved those slices of pizza.
I don’t want to spoil the book for anybody, but I truly encourage you to read it and reflect on the small, precious and beautiful things in your life that deserve more your attention than being perfect and busy. You’ll thank me later 😉
Team Work makes the Dream Work
I am beyond blessed and lucky to have Zach by my side. He is such an incredible, hard-working, smart and understanding man, and sometimes I cannot believe I forget. But being with his has been the biggest blessing of my life.
He is always supportive, encourages me to go further and reach my goals but holds me back when it’s enough. After reading Grace Not Perfection, I also realized that he was always there to take part of the load from me and helps so much to keep me sane.
We have now purchased a dry-erase board and match our schedules and responsibilities there, taking such a huge load from having to remember every single little thing that needs to be done and therefore having more time to spend and enjoy with each other. I really cannot complain since he most definitely cooks better than me and isn’t scared to venture and try new recipes none of us has done. But the fact that I know he is there to do things with me, is the reason I can keep going.
I cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with him and make memories, traditions and grow old together.
Last but not least, is having grace with yourself and your loved ones. This is going to be a quote I live by now. This misconception that us women have to do everything and excel at everything and keep everything together is never going to stop following us until we decide to cut it off. And that’s exactly what I am doing.
I have the greatest partner God could have send me and I know I don’t need to be perfect. I just need to do the best I can with the means I have. And that is all OK. Forgive yourself and understand that life and things and tough situations happen. You can let them take over your life or you can take control and not let them overwhelm you. There is so much beauty in this world and so many small things that make it worth shutting off the TV. Like when we let Shelby (our puppy) out of her kennel in the morning and she just runs like a maniac and wants to kiss and jump onto everybody. We have now started waking up 15 minutes earlier just so we can all lay in bed and enjoy some time together while sipping on some morning tea and coffee.
It’s small things like those that I now want to cherish and remember. So from now on, I’ll let the chaos and crazy jumping and playing take control, so that I can smile with Zach and enjoy the fact that she’s still a puppy and full of energy and love.
I know this hasn’t been the regular type of post, but I hope that whoever reads this gets some inspiration and encouragement from this. You are not alone, you are loved and you have one life to enjoy to it’s limit. Take advantage of it !!
Lots of love, Yara